Humanitarian Actions Around The Globe (Remediation Project)

Feminism!!

i was reading an article and this paragraph just caught my attention and it is kinda motivating and comforting  :)

"point is just that I don’t want to be told that waiting for a new love to replace the old one is what should comfort me and get me through this time. How about that I’m cool on my own? That I have a lot to give to society and so much left to experience in my life, with or without a romantic partner? What about how great of a friend I am, or how cool my job is, or how fun I am to hang out with? What about all of the cool things that I can experience single because I don’t have to take another person’s desires into consideration when I make my choices? Sure, I’m sad, but I’m not looking to soothe that sadness by replacing it with a new relationship. Women are allowed to be sad, and they’re allowed to be single, and they don’t need to hear that one day a man is going to make it all go away by telling her she is good enough again. She’s good enough as she is."

We Do Tend To Forget !

People change. True. But why?

I changed.. maybe willingly ? But I’ve definitely been influenced into thinking that I wanted to change myself. And am sure it is the case for many people. We do change to adapt ourselves to situations, to people, to fit in places, etc.. Problem is, I don’t understand why we have to change for these things? Why not be ourselves. Why can’t people try and learn to accept us the way we are. And why do we have to please them?  Sometimes people change and become more mature but they stay faithful to who they really are.

I had one friend who I deemed as close. We used to talk to each other a lot and all that. She was very innocent and lovely and she even admitted to that. But as time went on for like 2 years, a lot of our friends started noticing that she was changing a lot and not in how people change with time kinda way. We noticed she was forcing a change upon herself.  She rid her self image of that good innocent girl and began to do stuff that wasn’t like her. It was hard on me and some of our friends and we just ended our friendship. Truth is, we accepted her the way she was but still she felt that need to change her personality. Am not judging or anything, who am I to do so? Am just trying to understand.

Fact is, I did change too and not in a good way. I mean I changed not to please myself but to please others. It’s always about pleasing others and putting them first. I do realise that it is somehow pathetic but as I stated at the beginning I’ve been tricked into thinking I wanted to change myself and along the way I just lost track of who I really was.

hello!

knock knock !!!
who’s here??
 Ohh hii, I am an old friend. You’ve let me come in, in the past. I’ve visited you several times as well as your friends. I must admit there has been the good days and the bad days.. You’ve ignored me for a certain moment but here I am.. again. I never give up and I knock at people’s door when they least expect it. I must say that I am kind and patient and I am never proud of myself. I have the power to connect 2 individuals and connect them in a unified link of trust. Unfortunately I cannot be measured but I am experienced every day by anyone who let me in.

oh well, thank you for letting me in,
my name is LOVE ♥

Note To Self

Have you ever wondered what happens to you just before you die ? unable to sleep, that came to my mind. I often heard people say or even seen in movies that just before someone dies his/her life flashes before his/her eyes. Unfortunately there is no proof.
lets say its true, will the last images you see worth it? 2013 is a new year, and I won’t be taking any resolutions as I end up doing none most of the time but I want to make this year my year. I want to look back on 2013 and say I gave it my all. Nearly no one take the time to appreciate little things around them or the people around them. I want to appreciate these things. I want to appreciate the people in my life because if they are here, its because they either mean much to me or vice versa. No more hating. Hate is a really explicit and deep word and I know there is nothing as such. You may dislike someone or being reticent toward someone .. but  you never really hate someone. Happiness. This simple word can be experienced in nearly anything all you need is to be positive. If you see the good side of things or people you are bound to be happy and also I believe happiness comes from making others happy, it doesn’t ask much. A simple smile, a simple good-morning, a simple attention, a simple act of help may change the shitty day of someone. Spread the LOVE. Love people, love myself, love situations, love animals, love the nature, love everything and anything. Capture moments. capture moments as much as I can because people may be taken from me at any moment like the twinkling of an eye and also “I love photos because the best thing about it is that it never changes even when the person in it does” also most pictures reminds me of happy moments and it create memories.
there’s a lot to say but I will let the future surprise me. As for me, I’ll do my best to try to improve these last min images which will flash before I die. I’ll advice you to do it too, maybe it will help you die in peace.

happy new year J
elvina ♥

Vingt Deux Bougies;

I cannot believe that it has been 22 years already till I came to this stupid world. Time goes by so fast. Throughout this journey I’ve met so many wonderful people, lost so many precious souls, fought with friends and families, got my heart broken, got hurt ( & the list goes on) Am sad though, because I miss my childhood, that period where life seemed so good and where dreams were worth dreaming, that period where ignorance was bliss and where I was so excited to get together with the families for parties and so on. Nowadays, I miss the fact that I don’t even get excited for my birthday or for Christmas or even new year. Life has changed and I hate changes. I don’t get the time to really appreciate moments with people around me. Looking back on the past 22 years, am sad because “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” And that’s what I’ve been doing, I’ve taken these years for granted and am willing to look at life in a different perspective. This year has gone so fast. All the plans I had did not go like I wanted to but in the end it worked  out great. I won’t deny I still regret a little bit for not going abroad and a part of me still wonders what life would have been like if I was there. But then again here I’ve met wonderful people with whom I never thought I would get close within months. Life is hard, I get it, and I totally agree but these people helped and are still helping me to go through it. I am who I am today because of them and I am thankful for all these people in my life, friends and families.

SPECIAL NOTE: Dear grandma, we could not celebrate our birthday together this year and it will never ever be the same again without you, but thanks for the wonderful memories you left for me to cherish. Take care of yourself and enjoy the well-deserved rest. You are being missed every min ♥

Society is pretty ugly & disgusting, so FUCK it

Media has many things to do with the way people react. It has a bigger influence that one can imagine. It also works in different ways and people accept it without really realising it. This post focuses mainly on people who has never felt pretty and also by writing this post im trying to convince myself to stop paying attention to what people have to say or think about me.

What most people do not realise is that ugly or pretty, fat or skinny, heterosexuals or homosexuals & so on, these are just labels and besides all these we are all human beings with feelings just like them. Dear society you should stop being so judgemental and think before talking, after-all no one likes to be hurt so what’s the point of doing it? God did not see any mistake in us so who are you to come and judge?

To all the outsiders, society is doomed, we won’t be able to change a thing about that, but what we can do is to stand and accept ourselves as we are. When we believe without knowing we believe that we are damaged at our core, we also believe that we need to hide that damage for anyone to love us. We walk around ashamed of being ourselves. We try hard to make up for the way we look, walk, feel just to please people. Decisions are agonizing because if we, the person who makes the decision, are damaged, then how can we trust what we decide? We doubt our own impulses so we become masterful at looking outside ourselves for comfort.

 We become experts at striving and trying harder and harder to change ourselves, but this process only reaffirms what we already believe about ourselves; that our needs and choices cannot be trusted, and left to our own devices we are out of control. What im trying to say is that we are trying to change what we really are just to fit a crooked society and by doing so we forget that We are not a mistake and we are not a problem to be solved!

I am grateful though that I have friends and families who do not judge me from the outside but accept me for the inside. I feel the love with those people around me and they are the one who actually give me the strength to face society. On an ending note;
"To all the girls that think you're ugly because you're not a size 0, you're the beautiful one. It's society who's ugly"  Marilyn Monroe