We Do Tend To Forget !

People change. True. But why?

I changed.. maybe willingly ? But I’ve definitely been influenced into thinking that I wanted to change myself. And am sure it is the case for many people. We do change to adapt ourselves to situations, to people, to fit in places, etc.. Problem is, I don’t understand why we have to change for these things? Why not be ourselves. Why can’t people try and learn to accept us the way we are. And why do we have to please them?  Sometimes people change and become more mature but they stay faithful to who they really are.

I had one friend who I deemed as close. We used to talk to each other a lot and all that. She was very innocent and lovely and she even admitted to that. But as time went on for like 2 years, a lot of our friends started noticing that she was changing a lot and not in how people change with time kinda way. We noticed she was forcing a change upon herself.  She rid her self image of that good innocent girl and began to do stuff that wasn’t like her. It was hard on me and some of our friends and we just ended our friendship. Truth is, we accepted her the way she was but still she felt that need to change her personality. Am not judging or anything, who am I to do so? Am just trying to understand.

Fact is, I did change too and not in a good way. I mean I changed not to please myself but to please others. It’s always about pleasing others and putting them first. I do realise that it is somehow pathetic but as I stated at the beginning I’ve been tricked into thinking I wanted to change myself and along the way I just lost track of who I really was.